Keeping Stuck at Bay

I’ve had a bit of a realisation running The Hundred Dollar Club.  It’s very simply, that whilst there are some people who need advice, training, and to learn new skills, there are far more who have it all in them, know what to do and how to do it, but are just stuck.

They’re blocked. Something stops them from moving on with where they know they should be going.  They could be at the very beginning of their journey, or they could be quite a way through it, but the symptoms are the same. They will:

  • Research
  • Plan at a high level
  • Set some goals
  • Consume inspirational content

They might even get started.  But then something will hold them back. It’s the same thing for most people. It will disguise itself in many ways:

  • Not having enough time
  • Realising that you liked a different option better
  • Needing to do more research
  • Asking advice from someone
  • Waiting for the time to be right
  • Making sure the end result will be perfect

These however are just symptoms. The real problem goes by a few different names:

It’s all the same thing in my eyes. It’s being afraid. It’s being unsure. It’s not wanting to step outside the norm. It’s wondering what people might think. It’s not wanting to be criticised.

It’s wondering if you’re good enough. It’s making excuses.

This is true for everyone. Everyone.

And the big thing I’ve seen from running The Hundred Dollar Club, is that this can’t be cured by reading some inspirational content or watching a TED video. (Even one that good)

It can only be cured by consistently doing whatever it is you want to do and putting real things out into the big wide world. There is no quick fix for this, and I’m not sure it can ever be totally beaten.

Just kept in check by getting shit done.

5 comments

  1. “F U, Rob.” is what I said aloud after I read this post. You read me like a book. You called me out on all my shit. The Resistance for me most often takes the form of reading inspirational content. “Once I read one more book, I’ll be all ready to start.” You are exactly right that the only poultice (since there is no cure) is consistently pushing through and doing the things you want to do. Thanks for this. We all need to hear it.

    • I’m glad it provoked a reaction Gretchen. It wasn’t meant to be a commentary on any individual – I think everyone suffers from this stuckness. You know what your resistance is, and you know where it’s lurking, so you’re all the better equipped to beat it into submission! Keep up the fight with it.

    • Natasha Posted on Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry you are in pain, it’s very very dilcifuft. Try to stay positive and move forward. Peace and blessings, Natasha

  2. You are so right Rob. The worst one is convincing yourself that life is getting in your way. I start thinking “As soon as parent teacher conferences are over” or “when Eli’s basketball season is finished, then I’ll have a little more time”. It’s insidious because I always think that my family has to come first. While this is true, it also can be fear in disguise. Thanks for the great post!

    • Thanks Thad, the family one is particularly difficult. My family’s also my priority, but if all you focus on is them, then the best you can achieve, and what you will teach them is that the only thing that’s important is raising the next generation. If all generations did only this, who will do the great work that the world needs to progress? If everything is invested totally in the next generation, is it fair to live our lives vicariously through them? It helps to remind ourselves that there’s great work to be done as well as raising families. It’s not a case of replacing one important use of time with another, but making sure we use all our time for important things.

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